Are you still excited about Friendship week? Ready for Tuesday’s 2 little tidbits? (Find Monday’s HERE.)
Crystal Stine reminds us (here) that it only takes a few minutes to check in with someone and see how they are doing. She has a short list of questions that get right to the heart of the recipient (none of that “the weather’s beautiful here, what about there?” business.) From Crystal: “The questions we need to ask don’t need to be long or deep or fancy. They just need to be honest and from a heart that is willing to truly listen to the answer. It’s about knowing your friend, what her passions are, and asking God to show you the best way to pour love and encouragement into her life.”
I’m pretty sure I could devote 10 minutes a day to this. I generally know which friends are struggling with family life, work life or sometimes even both. What I would love to know -even more on a daily basis- what they are excited about, what awesome things are happening with their kids or spouses and what their short and long term goals are.
Remember yesterday when we talked about vulnerability? How it cultivates the real deal relationships? It’s true. When women stop competing and trying to impress one another and start opening up, saying “me too,” is when real connections are made. I love the word ‘disarming’. All facades are gone, no pretending. Just a real admission that you struggle with something, anything, that the other person can relate to. No one’s life is as perfect as their Instagram or Facebook photos. There is struggle. There are less than pretty circumstances related to child rearing, in-laws, spouses, jobs, health. The list goes on! How about letting your guard down and the next time a friend says (or posts!) that they are struggling with something, say “me too”. There is power in numbers and 1 + 1 is exponentially more powerful than just the 1. Lysa proclaims the 5 best things you can say to a friend today.
What would be your 5 things?
Have you made any commitments to your friendships based on the past two days? If so, tell me what you’ve committed to!