What kind of friend are you?
A good one? A great one? A consistent one? A prayerful one? A slacker one?
I am all of these, plus more, at any given time. I own it. I want to do better.
After 40 years on this earth, I’ve gained friends in many different ways. I still have one that is 35 years strong, some I just met this year.
All of these friendships are grounded in different circumstances. Some friendships I own:
* Bound in history. We’ve just always been friends and that history has cemented a bond in each of our hearts.
*Bound from a shared experience, school (from Elementary to College). I’ve developed friends along the way and there are quite a few I am still in touch with and adore. What I adore *even* more is catching up with them via social media now that we are adults. Or, at least we are practicing ‘adulting’. I love seeing snapshots of their daily life, their kids, their dogs. It’s just really gratifying to see that each of us got more life to live.
*Bound in blood. I love to consider my Aunt, my cousin, and of course my siblings as my friends. We have commonality in our core, our DNA. We can each look at one another and see some speck of ourselves in the other.
*Bound in circumstance. Lynn, the Mom I adopted when I had my first daughter, she and I are not blood related but she is a wonderful human in my story. She cheers with me, cries with me, worries with me and most days, laughs with me.
*Bound from the 9-5 grind. I’ve had several jobs during my career. I’ve been lucky to work with really smart people and even luckier to find that some of them are really great people who I want to interact with outside those walls.
*Friends of friends who I have felt an instant cosmic connection to. I love meeting new people through my existing friends. Generally, if someone I adore likes you, I’m all about learning who you are, who you want to be and what commonalities bond us.
What other types of friends do you have?
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how I can be a better friend. Yes, there are seasons in all of our lives that prevent us from being the best friend always, but that can’t be used as an excuse to just suck at it.
And, in perfect timing, Incourage, a wonderfully well…, encouraging website, is hosting 5 days in April where they will email you 2 tips a day to be the friend you wish you had.
Their words: “These tips? They’re part of our stories – not “how to” tips but “me, too” moments and reminders we each need to keep finding the courage to create friendship on purpose.”
I love the thought of doing anything with purpose. Actually, I toyed with the idea of naming this blog “Leslie On Purpose” because I don’t know that much happens by accident. What I do know, is that I want to grow as a friend and choose to do things that make me a better friend.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think I’m a lame friend or anything like that. It’s just that I’m not an everyday friend. I don’t really talk on the phone. I don’t listen to voice mail. I text, Facebook post, Instagram tag and occasionally remember an important event or anniversary with a card in the mail. If we haven’t spoken in 6 months, I still love each of my friends *just* as much as the last time we did speak. They know that I’m the ride or die chick that you call when stuff is really going down. When life gets hard, come find me.
What I want to do is be the friend when life is easy too. I want to celebrate a Tuesday with laughter, simply because we are alive and we want to share each other’s joy. I want my girlfriends to know I’m thinking about them when I can’t physically be with them. Most of all, I want them to know I love them and cherish them.
Join me in April in honing our friendship skills! Sign up on the Incourage site here or follow along with me as I share their tips and work on being a friend with Purpose.
Happy Tuesday! xoxo